Someone wrote in and asked me if I could write about this topic. I have to say that even though I do think about these things and implement them as much as possible at home that I am human and do from time to time slip up. I have always hesitated in writing about raising children as it is not an exact science, mine are still growing and while I am immensely proud of them they are individuals with their own choices.
Most people try to prevent bad things from happening to their children, I started out by trying this too and from time to time I do still fall into this. However what I realised was that I was disempowering them. Every time I stepped in and solved a situation for my children I was unconsciously telling them that I didn’t think they were able to manage it on their own. What I was teaching them was that they were powerless. They could not believe in themselves, someone else (me) always knew better. What I try to do now is support them in resolving their issues, give them the skills to navigate and overcome the challenges and negative situations they encounter. I want them to grow up to believe in themselves, to trust their judgement and to be confident. To do this I cannot protect them I have to give them the skills to navigate on their own.
“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms, allow them to take the subway... let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.” ― C. JoyBell C.
Some of these skills are
“As parents we cannot prevent bad things from happening what we can do is give our children the tools to overcome challenges.” – BrittTanya
All the best, I view raising children a bit like solving a mystery there are always clues and we have to try them out and see what fits. If one solution does not work don’t give up try something else there is always a way.
“There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other wings.” - Henry Ward Beecher
Lots of love Britt