Since I have known about it I have found how life reflects what is going on inside my head to be fascinating. People often think that life happens to us but it is who we are being that creates our lives and most definitely creates the experience we have of life. Your life is a reflection of your focus.
You might already know this but I hope through the examples I am going to give you and from sone of the insights I have gained over the years which I will share that you might be able to gain a deeper understanding for yourself.
I know I have mentioned Abraham Hicks quite a few times recently I, have been listening to a lot of their podcast and what they say really speaks to me and is very much in line with my own thoughts and experiences.
We are all made of energy and we vibrate and depending on what we are focusing on we vibrate at different frequencies. We also have an energy field (which Abraham call’s “the vortex”) and this energy field is full of everything you have experienced. The things you don’t like and the things you do like. Every time you focus on something it registers in this energy field. Through the contrast of life you have added many things to your energy field and you activate them and deactivate them by how you focus. The more you focus on something, the more you are emotionally charged about it, the more you aligned to it and the more likely you are to see it showing up in your life. It doesn't matter what you focus on but the more energetically you’re charged by it be it positive or negative the more likely it is to show up in your environment.
I have found that FaceBook or any social media demonstrates this incredibly well;
I was walking with a very dear friend of mine and we were talking about Facebook. She was complaining that all people seemed to post about were conspiracy theories and hating the government and she wished people would stop doing this. Her comments got me thinking, I very rarely get any of these things in my feed but I realised that when I do I simply flick past them. I don’t read them, like them, share them or comment on them. I don’t engage with them at all which I suppose means I don’t engage with people who post this material either. I think because of this FaceBook’s logarithms (much like life) realise that this is of no interest to me and stop sending me these posts. I allow what you don’t want in life just let it pass you by, don’t engage with it, shout at it, think about it or focus on it in any way (unless you are legally obliged to then do what you have to with the least amount of emotional attachment).
After thinking about this I realised that I had real life experience of how not focusing on the stuff I don’t want has helped me to have more of what I do.
Before I left Botswana the country was going through a really rough time. Crime was up especially in my neighbourhood (when the river ran dry thieves could escape across into South Africa and the Botswana police weren’t able to follow them), we were going through a 4 year drought hence the dry river and there were big problems with the new power plant, in that it didn’t work. This meant Botswana had to buy power in from South Africa or Angola and these places did not even have enough power for themselves, so there were many power cuts too. However I chose not to gossip about the crime, or to talk and worry about the power cuts or water shortages. I consciously chose to focus on safety and having water and power. This is not to say that I did not take precautions, I locked the doors every night and put the alarm on, we were carful about the water we used and made plans for when we had power cuts. I lived in this house mainly on my own with my two boys for 14 years and only had 1 theft and this was very minor. Someone passed through our property one night and stole a frozen pie out of a freezer that was on the porch. In the time I lived there both of my neighbours were broken into but I never was. During the drought everyone who lived near us had to truck water in for all of their amenities and we didn’t. Our boar hole kept going and we were fine. We were also very lucky with the power. We did have power cuts however at one time the government instituted nightly power usage limits which meant you were lucky if you could boil a kettle. We were incredibly fortunate because we had three phase power (don’t ask me to explain what this is) and this meant we were exempt from this action. Writing this now it seems like this was an easy thing to do but it wasn’t. I wasn’t always sure of what I was doing or if it would work, doubted myself and doubted what I thought I knew but I did know that engaging with the fear only made me more frightened and I didn’t like feeling like that. Looking back on this time it is my belief that how I chose to focus impacted not only how I felt during this time but also what I experienced.
I would also like to point out that I was not fighting reality (I was not making it wrong) - the crime, drought or power cuts. I accepted that they were part of my life and chose actions to ensure my safety and that of my children but I also but to the best of my ability I chose to then focus on the positive things in my life.
I hope that this has in some way inspired you to see how you can create your own reality just by focusing on what you want in your reality rather on the things that you don't want. And by choosing who you interact with, the conversations you have, the things you read, and what you do you can change your experience of your life.
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