I am going to share a concept with you that has fascinated me for a long time - we don't know what we don't know. I know this seem’s obvious, but we can't experience something that we don't have knowledge of in our minds or language to make sense of it. Our brain filters things out that don't make sense so sometimes something might be in our reality but we just don't see it. Which is a very tricky thing to try and share with people because how do you explain something that they will never have noticed? But I am going to try because once you know this you might be able to overcome your limitations even the ones you didn’t know you had. And to start I am going to share a few examples;​

• A gentleman by the name of Rudolf Steiner (He is very famous and started a philosophical education system) went to Australia many years ago, around the time that the camera was invented. He traveled deep into the Australian outback and met with a tribe of aboriginals. He took a picture of the chief and showed it to him. The question is - what did the chief see? I want you to think about that for a moment before I give you the answer…………… he saw nothing. He had never seen a picture let alone a photograph so did not have the language or the understanding of what one was. Due to this his brain could not make sense of what he was being shown so he thought he was not being shown anything. However once the process and what it was had been explained to him he was then able to see the picture.
• A lady from china traveled to America. I think she must have come from a fairly rural place in China and had never seen anybody with red hair. Apparently for months after she arrived in America she did not realise some people had red hair. It was not something that was even a possibility where she had come from so her brain did not compute it. It was again only after it was pointed out to her that she could see it. 
• There is also the well-documented story (I don't know how true it is) of the first ships arriving of the coast of America and how the indigenous people thought that they were clouds because they again did not have any language for these massive ships and could not make sense of what they were seeing. 

These are all stories of other people who had experienced this and while I found it fascinating I still couldn’t really believe that this was what happened. And then I had my own experience;

• A friend of mine called me while I was in my office. He told me about an integrated bumper and how he wanted to get one put on his car. I said I didn’t think I had ever seen an integrated bumper so he sent me through a picture. Again I said I didn’t think I had ever seen one and thought that these must be very rare. At the time I was living in Botswana where every 3rd of 4th car was a 4x4 with bull bars on. We finished our conversation and I then drove into town. As I drove into town I suddenly saw these integrated bumpers everywhere it was as if they had been added to cars by magic. 

I am sharing this with you because the opposite is also true. We can't experience something that we don't have the language or knowledge for in our mind and we also experience everything that we do have language and knowledge for. Whatever information you have absorbed from your infancy, through your childhood, your teenage years and into adulthood be it from your society, caregivers, parents, schooling, culture, from what you've read, watched, or experienced all of that goes to build this database in your mind that gives you constructs for what you think reality is. These are the stories that you've told yourself to make sense of your world and to be able to survive and live in it. It also forms the basis of what you think is possible in life and what you think is not. Now I hope you can see or are starting to see that just because you think it is possible or or not does not actually make it so. I hope I have demonstrated with the previous examples that just because you believe something is possible does not make it so. 

So where in your life are you limiting yourself and limiting the possibilities that you could possibly have in life? 

In case you are still not convinced I have one more example to share; 

• In 1953 no one had ever run a mile in less than 4 minuets. Until a gentleman by the name of Sir Roger Bannister decided that he was going to do it. On the 6th of May 1954 he achieved he goal but whilst this is amazing it was what happened afterwards that was even more fascinating. Only two months later someone else did it as well. It was as if it took Sir Roger Bannister to make the impossible possible to make it a possibility for other people too. Nowadays for any self-respecting professional middle distance runner doing the mile in under four minutes is something that is common practice. It has gone from something that was impossible to being something that is considered to be normal, or normal for people who do it as a profession. Not for me! 

The reason I am sharing all of this is because I want to ask you where in your life have you decided that something is not possible? That something cannot be done? That there is a reason you cannot achieve something or experience something or have something in your life? What I would really love you to do as an exercise following on from this blog is to go and find people that have done what ever you think is impossible. I am dyslexic so if I was to do this I might think it isn’t possible for me to write a book or be taken seriously in literary circles. If this was the case I would then purposefully find people who were dyslexic and had done the things I thought I couldn’t. I would then use these examples to convince myself that actually these things I thought were impossible are possible. There are so many areas that you can use this to overcome your limitations and to start living a life of possibility 

So much love from me to you.

I want to speak to you about raising your vibration through gratitude. I have already written a lot about gratitude in various in various shapes and forms but I want to dive into gratitude in a deeper way than I have before. I have realised there's two different ways to do gratitude and that is what I want to share with you today. 

In case you haven't read or listened to any of the other things that I have shared on gratitude I will  very quickly share the story of my gratitude journey. It started in 2019 when I had to move home. I knew that moving house would be very stressful especially as I am a single mother so have to do nearly everything on my own. From past experience moving seriously depletes me so I decided that this time I would try to put things in place to support myself and hopefully ensure that I was staying in the space that I want to be living in irrespective of the stress that I knew I was most likely going to go under.  This decision led to the inspiration to start a Gratitude Group on Facebook.  When I started this group I didn’t expect it to be particularly well attended. I thought some close friends might be kind enough to join me and help me in this space but I was not expecting much more than that.  What actually happened totally took me by surprise and before I knew it the group was well over 100 people. At the point of writing this blog I think we have close to 600 people in the group which to me is quite a lot, it is certainly more than the five to ten people I thought I was going to have. Initially when set up the group I was only going to do it for the month that I was moving and settling in but because so many people joined I extended it and then extended it again. Until around Christmas time some lovely people in the group and I decided to run it every day for the next year.   

I have learnt so much from running this gratitude group and one of these things is what I want to share with you today. What I have realised is that you can do gratitude 2 ways (there might be more but for the purpose of this blog I am going to share 2.

• Mentally 
• With your whole being 

When I started doing it regularly I would sit down every night and I would share five things that I was grateful for.  I tried to find five different things every day so that I didn’t just default to a preprepared list of things I was grateful for.  I wanted to stretch myself and to change how I interacted with the world. Initially just the change in my focus in life was noticeable because I began looking for things in my life to be grateful for. As I went about my day with the focus of gratitude I started to notice things I would never have done before. I became more sensitive to things of beauty and wonder because I was looking for them. Instead of just driving under the trees on the way to or from school I would notice how the light played off the leaves, or the colour of the leaves, or the sound they made as the wind blew through them. Before this I was often so caught up in my own thoughts that I would pass by without noticing them at all. 

What I have now realised is that you can deepen, expand or make this experience even more rich and beautiful. And the way to do this is by stepping more deeply into the things that you've found to be grateful for and building them up and amplifying them. For instance if I have seen a flower in my garden that I have planted, nurtured and grown and it's bloomed. I can see it and note that I am grateful for it and remember that I must add it to my list of gratitudes that evening. This is a very metal experience. 

Or I can take it a level deeper. To do this I need to step into the experience with the flower. I can allow the colour of the flower to wash over me to sense the colour rather than just mentally say it in my mind. I can allow myself to feel the energy of the flower and to step into presence with flower experience the joy of the anticipation of it blooming and the joy of seeing it bloom to really percolate in my being. Give space for this experience to expand in my life. The more that I allow myself to truly step into this way of experiencing life the more expanded my heart becomes the more beautiful and joyful my life becomes and the higher my vibration becomes. The next time you see something that you are grateful for allow yourself to experience it with your whole body and then let me know how it went ;) 

This is has been a very short little reflection today on raising your vibration through gratitude but to me it's so incredibly important because it takes the little small little things that could be insignificant and it allows you to fully step into the glory of all that they are it allows you to resonate at a higher level and it allows you to bring joy into your life and bliss and just so much magic and happiness in the little moments it's taking those little moments and expanding them so that they take up more space and they take up more time and they allow more energy into your life

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So much love from me to you 

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Since I have known about it I have found how life reflects what is going on inside my head to be fascinating. People often think that life happens to us but it is who we are being that creates our lives and most definitely creates the experience we have of life. Your life is a reflection of your focus. 

You might already know this but I hope through the examples I am going to give you and from sone of the insights I have gained over the years which I will share that you might be able to gain a deeper understanding for yourself.

I know I have mentioned Abraham Hicks quite a few times recently I, have been listening to a lot of their podcast and what they say really speaks to me and is very much in line with my own thoughts and experiences. 

We are all made of energy and we vibrate and depending on what we are focusing on we vibrate at different frequencies. We also have an energy field (which Abraham call’s “the vortex”) and this energy field is full of everything you have experienced. The things you don’t like and the things you do like. Every time you focus on something it registers in this energy field. Through the contrast of life you have added many things to your energy field and you activate them and deactivate them by how you focus. The more you focus on something, the more you are emotionally charged about it, the more you aligned to it and the more likely you are to see it showing up in your life. It doesn't matter what you focus on but the more energetically you’re charged by it be it positive or negative the more likely it is to show up in your environment. 

I have found that FaceBook or any social media demonstrates this incredibly well;
I was walking with a very dear friend of mine and we were talking about Facebook. She was complaining that all people seemed to post about were conspiracy theories and hating the government and she wished people would stop doing this. Her comments got me thinking, I very rarely get any of these things in my feed but I realised that when I do I simply flick past them. I don’t read them, like them, share them or comment on them. I don’t engage with them at all which I suppose means I don’t engage with people who post this material either. I think because of this FaceBook’s logarithms (much like life) realise that this is of no interest to me and stop sending me these posts. I allow what you don’t want in life just let it pass you by, don’t engage with it, shout at it, think about it or focus on it in any way (unless you are legally obliged to then do what you have to with the least amount of emotional attachment). 

After thinking about this I realised that I had real life experience of how not focusing on the stuff I don’t want has helped me to have more of what I do. 

Before I left Botswana the country was going through a really rough time. Crime was up especially in my neighbourhood (when the river ran dry thieves could escape across into South Africa and the Botswana police weren’t able to follow them), we were going through a 4 year drought hence the dry river and there were big problems with the new power plant, in that it didn’t work. This meant Botswana had to buy power in from South Africa or Angola and these places did not even have enough power for themselves, so there were many power cuts too. However I chose not to gossip about the crime, or to talk and worry about the power cuts or water shortages. I consciously chose to focus on safety and having water and power.  This is not to say that I did not take precautions, I locked the doors every night and put the alarm on, we were carful about the water we used and made plans for when we had power cuts. I lived in this house mainly on my own with my two boys for 14 years and only had 1 theft and this was very minor. Someone passed through our property one night and stole a frozen pie out of a freezer that was on the porch. In the time I lived there both of my neighbours were broken into but I never was. During the drought everyone who lived near us had to truck water in for all of their amenities and we didn’t. Our boar hole kept going and we were fine. We were also very lucky with the power. We did have power cuts however at one time the government instituted nightly power usage limits which meant you were lucky if you could boil a kettle. We were incredibly fortunate because we had three phase power (don’t ask me to explain what this is) and this meant we were exempt from this action. Writing this now it seems like this was an easy thing to do but it wasn’t. I wasn’t always sure of what I was doing or if it would work,  doubted myself and doubted what I thought I knew but I did know that engaging with the fear only made me more frightened and I didn’t like feeling like that. Looking back on this time it is my belief that how I chose to focus impacted not only how I felt during this time but also what I experienced. 

I would also like to point out that I was not fighting reality (I was not making it wrong) - the crime, drought or power cuts. I accepted that they were part of my life and chose actions to ensure my safety and that of my children but I also but to the best of my ability I chose to then focus on the positive things in my life. 

I hope that this has in some way inspired you to see how you can create your own reality just by focusing on what you want in your reality rather on the things that you don't want. And by choosing who you interact with, the conversations you have, the things you read, and what you do you can change your experience of your life. 

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So much love from me to you