Do you find life an uphill battle?

How to stop the struggle 
There have been times in my life that I have wondered at this thing called life. Why does it have to be so hard!? No sooner have I conquered one mountain than another one looms over me! I barely have time to celebrate my victory before I have to be off again to the next climb.
Does this sound familiar? Have you been struggling from one challenge to the next? I have been giving this much thought as this is not the life that I signed up for. What I have discovered is what I am going to share with you now.
You know how when you are growing up, some idealists tell you that you should really do what you love to do? I know I got told this. Unfortunately I didn’t really know what I would love to do, so I became indoctrinated with what others thought I should be doing. And not just what I should be doing, but what I needed to be doing in order to be successful and survive at what I should be doing. Finally I found something that I did want to be doing but then I still had all of the vestiges of other people’s opinions on how I should be doing it and it seems that only now, am I really stepping out and doing what I love in the way that I love it.
At different points in my life it has all been about surviving. Doing whatever I could to make ends meet and not sink in the process. What I have learnt recently though is that what those idealists told me all those years ago is the truth. It does not matter which strategies you use or how clever you appear, if you are not happy doing what you do -you are not going to be happy. Life will be one challenge after another because you are not on solid footing or in line with yourself.
There are a number of components to doing what you love

• Keep looking
  • I only found what I wanted to do when I was 30, not that it needs to take a long time, (some people know from the word go what they want to do). At first I stumbled on a book that I enjoyed and this grew into a passion to learn more about consciousness. But when I tried Raki and Body Talk I knew that I didn’t want to do this full time. Only when I was 35 did I stumble onto Coaching and Consciousness Coaching and finally find my space. Even after this my life is not a fixed thing but an ever changing and developing process. Don’t ever give up if you haven’t found what you love just keep looking, but you do actually have to look and not just hide in your room expecting it to find you.
• Trust your self
  • No one will ever be able to tell you what makes your heart sing. Only you can know that so trust how things make you feel. These feelings are feedback from your soul to your conscious self to say YES!!! Or NO!!! You will also need to trust that you can make it in what you love and this is an even harder step as you might need to go against everything with which you have been programed. When I started coaching I was told by a couple of family members to get a ‘proper’ job and stop playing around. Just remember that this is their reality and not yours. If you truly love doing something, you will give it something special and because of this it will be worth so much more than what other people are offering who are not doing it from their hearts. You can’t expect other people or the universe to trust you if you are not prepared to trust yourself.
• Follow your bliss
  • Again this is about tuning into your feelings. When you do things that line up with your soul you will feel excited and inspired. These are the bread crumbs you need to follow to find your path. No one else can find them but you. No one else can advise you on which is the right path as only you are tuned into these particular bread crumbs. And why should you line up with your soul? Quite simply because if you don’t you will be climbing that mountain all of your life. The struggle I spoke about at the start of this blog is a struggle in yourself that is projected out onto the stage of the world. You do not need to line up with your soul but if you don’t you will be fighting yourself for the rest of your life.
• Recognize your ego and let go
  • Your ego is designed to keep you safe, and this means keeping exactly where you have always been because it knows how to deal with life here. This is often why people have to hit rock bottom before they will change. Only when life really becomes unbearable where they are do they allow themselves to move. How you will know if your ego has come out to play is that you will doubt yourself, you will feel fearful and you what once seemed like a great idea will seem the silliest thing in the world. Your ego uses your thoughts and feelings to get you back in line. However when you are ready and waiting for it then it does not work so effectively and you can choose to act independently of it.
• Give up any the need for approval
  • One of the biggest stumbling blocks for most people in this process is that they start out on this new inspired path only to bump into someone who thinks that what they are doing is ‘mad’! Most often these comments come from those closest to you and what these comments really are is your fears being expressed by others. When you are prepared for them they are not nearly as terrifying and what I am going to do is give you a tool to move past them. When someone says something that triggers you in relation to your new direction, take some time and ask yourself. What do you fear will happen if what this person said is true? Let’s look at an example – When I started I was told to get a proper job. When I look at this statement and ask myself what was I afraid would happen if I didn’t get a proper job, I was afraid I would fail, be destitute, not be able to support myself and my children. I was focused on surviving. I feared that I would disappear and be irradiated in life if I didn’t do what I was told to do. But when you look at it I would be more likely to disappear and be irradiated by life if I was just to conform and live a non-life. And in hindsight it has been because I have had to make my chosen career work (otherwise I would not have survived) that has meant I did make it work. Sometimes when the circumstances are too comfortable it is easier to give up, there is no reason to succeed.

I love the space I am in at the moment. I love having time to write about, research, talk about and support others and do the things I love. I have realized that I don’t need anyone to approve of what I do; I do it because it pleases me and that is the most wonderful thing. I get to do things that please me all day and now the challenges that I used to have are the most wonderful meander through the most stunning scenery and it gives me joy to walk this path every day.
I hope you find your path and wish you happy traveling
With love Britt
 

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