How to Change Your Perspective

​Changing your perspective  
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I have been struggling with this week’s newsletter as you can tell by the late publication! However I promised weekly so weekly it shall be even if it is at the end of the week rather than the beginning. I was having a huge problem getting the topic I wanted to talk about to fit in to key word searches and then today I just thought stuff it I am just going to write it as I thought about it quite a number of days ago.

I was meditating this morning (now some days ago) and I realised the importance of perspective on life. This is something I have known about for a long time. I remember as a teenager pondering why when you are in a relationship you cannot see what is going on but from the outside it all seems so clear. This is true of all things in life, if you have a challenge of any kind getting distance from it so that you can gain a different perspective can change everything.

So how do you create this different perspective? Firstly you need to want to create it. Make space, take a walk, meditate, talk to someone who you know is honest, and has good judgment, someone who isn’t scared to tell you the hard truth. Take a holiday or even a day off. Just create space between you and the challenge. You will know when you have created this space because you will be able to look at it without intense emotion, and you will be able to let go of your judgments and your defences only then can you truly look at your challenge objectively.

So once you have created your space you need to approach the challenge in the right manor. Recently I have seen many people want something in life but instead of looking at how they can make it happen they look at why the cant make it happen. You have to realise that you mind is phenomenal but you need to know how to use it. You need to be able to focus it on what you want to create rather on what you don’t want to create. Simply brainstorm what needs to happen to get what you want. Let us look at some common scenarios

• You have relationship problems – First create space and get away from the person. It needn’t be far a walk or a run could be enough. Allow yourself to let you emotions settle down. Then decide what you want from your relationship and just because I am in a romantic mood we will say you want to loving relationship. I have people who come to me saying their partner has already made up their mind, there is nothing they can do. This way of thinking and the behaviour it leads to is not going to get you what you want. You need to ask yourself what can I do to create a loving relationship. Often your ego comes out to “protect you” by creating fear of being hurt, doubt that it will work, fears of being rejected all of this is just your ego’s way of protecting you from pain. However it also prevents you from creating what you really want. For that you need courage, courage to keep trying when all hope seems lost, courage to change yourself and become vulnerable even thought you might be rejected. The change you create if you really are serious about it will be a change in who you are being so ask yourself if you had created what you dream of who would you be being? This is what you need to aim for, to start being this person now. Sometimes when you change yourself you might not get to keep the relationship you think you want but you will open up space to create the relationship of your dreams.
• You have a challenge at work – Again the first step is to create some space between you and the challenge. On your next weekend take some time out, go for a walk, meditate, go for a drive in the country whatever floats your boat but it should be time for reflection. Then ask yourself what you would like from this situation what would you create if you had a magic wand. Then as above ask yourself once this has been created how would you be behaving? Now what you need to do is start behaving like this now. And yes you will need courage to do this as your ego will not like it. It will think you will get hurt, rejected, humiliated and so on. But if you don’t take that step then nothing will change and you will stay where you are.

So to change you perception of any situation you need to create space from it, decide what you really want out of it and then design and take actions that will get it for you in spite of your doubts, fears and all past evidence to the contrary. You will need to develop faith

This has been a short one this week I already have ideas for next week’s so it should arrive a lot sooner than this weeks.
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With love Britt 

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